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By: b muffin

b muffin — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 06:02:41 +0000

my ex’s mom tells me she loves me… i think she realized how awkward it makes me feel last time… i sound so phoney when i say it.

By: Chloé

Chloé — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 02:15:38 +0000

I fancy you…!
I’m falling for you…!

Some positive, retro-romantic ‘f-words’ that might fill the void between ‘like’ and ‘love’.

By: Anika

Anika — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 22:01:15 +0000

In the most serious relationship I’ve had, we essentially invented a step between I Like You and I Love You. For a while, we were telling each other “I More Than Like You” and it would still give me butterflies and we’d smile like crazy, but we weren’t ready for I Love You. It was kind of adorable and worked as a stepping stone.

By: ansi

ansi — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 04:42:48 +0000

I think you know it’s worth saying when it’s okay that it’s not said back to you immediately, but the relationship just gets about 100000 times better when it does.

How sad is it that being in a platonic relationship means not holding back the love, but being in a romantic relationship means putting loads of pressure on yourself (do I say it, is it too early, will I scare them away, if I do say it and it’s not said back, am I just not worthy, etc.)???

I like for love in my world to feel 100% when dishing it out… and 1000% to receive. (It means everyone just ends up with lots and lots of excess.)

By: didi

didi — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 19:19:26 +0000

So hard to know what “love” really is. The more I think about it the more I think I haven’t ever really “loved” anyone, despite several long relationships. You can be very fond of someone and a really close friend, and you can find them very physically beautiful …. but would you die for them? would you give them a kidney if they needed it? would you die of despair if they died? Or would you just go “oh well, that was sad” and go off with someone else? As far as I can see, love is always wanting to be around that person, all the time … I dunno, haven’t figured it out yet!

By: CK

CK — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 02:57:36 +0000

To add more, I think the word love is to be used in moderation. I believe in true love. I believe that I can love many people, but I think that true love conquers all, defeats all. There’s also that difference between BEING in love and loving someone..

A question I love and hate – what is better? Falling in love, or loving someone after falling in love?

Falling in love is mad and uncontrollable, loving is delightful and comfortable. What is better? Eeek

By: CK

CK — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 02:53:24 +0000

My boyfriend and I are going out for the second time, and we just had our one year anniversary (which was, by the way, perfect. Sharing chocolate mouse at a desert cafe inspired by the film Chocolat followed by a photo adventure can’t be beaten).. We have said “I love you” for almost two years. We are doing long distance, and a few weeks ago we realised we don’t know what love IS. I’m 17, he’s 18. We are both quite mature in our relationship. It’s amazing. We stopped saying I love you. And after about two weeks we couldn’t resist – we found love…. Crazy…….? So hard to explain.. Haha.x

By: Leanne

Leanne — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 03:27:11 +0000

I know what you mean!
My family was the type to never say “I love you” so I find it very awkward to say whereas I have friends who use it constantly.

I remember my last relationship I grew to really like the guy and I was thinking to say “I love you” but then i bit my tongue and changed it to something else because I didn’t think I really MEANT it… But with the gift of hindsight, lucky I didn’t say it :p

I don’t know if it is true but my friend who spent a few months in France told me they have different sayings between “I like you” and “I love you” to stage your level of feeling for the person.. so there’s no abrupt jump between “like” and “love”.

By: Leeann

Leeann — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 23:47:19 +0000

Clearly we need more words!

With my current boyfriend we actually went through a little phase of inventing a word to mean “stronger than like but not quiiiiiiite the love thing yet,” which has somehow now morphed into his nickname for me. No one else in the world knows that secret word and it makes me melt every time he says it, even though we’ve moved on to actually saying “I love you” now. :)

By: Kat

Kat — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 06:17:35 +0000

Are you reading my mind? I’ve been going over this exact topic in my head for the past month. I’ve told one boyfriend that I loved him. We were together for two years and half of it was incredible and half of it was incredibly painful. Looking back on it, I think it’s accurately summed up by a Kurt Vonnegut quote: ‘We’re not too young for love, just too young for about everything there is that comes with love.’ We didn’t know how to handle such a serious relationship at such a young age and it fell apart, as that often happens when you’re young!

Anyway, I’ve been dating my best friend for a few months, and for some people that might be too soon to use the L-word but I… I can’t explain it. How could I? Love is such a strangely abstract concept that any words I could use to describe how I feel for this boy would be entirely inadequate. I’m kind of itching to tell him, but at the same time, I’ve got a feeling we have a long, happy relationship ahead of us and I’m in no rush.

It’s definitely getting more difficult to not blurt it out, though.